My new memoir and third book is a deeply personal and revealing look at a year of my life when nearly everything changed.
From the preface:
I began this journey as many single, middle-aged women do– to find a mate. I woke up one day nearing my forties burnt-out, unhappy, alone, and un-datable. People described me as intense, serious, aggressive, and intimidating. I did not know how to create the life I wanted, and I did not have the energy to do everything on my own anymore. I sought help. When I found the right person and books to guide me, I gave myself over to the process, I really had no choice, it drenched me like an ocean wave, leaving no corner of my life dry.
The tide of femininity brought miracles that I never saw coming. By the end of just over a year, I had a new body, a new way of eating, a new sexuality, new relationships with every member of my family, new ancestors, new friends, a new way of relating to men, a new place to call home, a new vision for my work, and was on my way to discovering a new image of God. People now describe me as humble, optimistic, energetic, and full of joy.
For some readers this will be a book about femininity. For others it will be a story about family complexities. Within those readers for some it will be about the dance between a little girl, a grown woman and her father, for others it will be about slowly losing a mother to Alzheimer’s, for still some others it will be about sisters. For some it will be a book about self-care and learning how to express feelings. For some it will be about relating to men and learning how to date. For some readers this book will be about struggling with food and dieting addiction. For some it will be about healing from sexual abuse and assault. For others it will be about relying upon God no matter what. For some it will simply be the story of one woman’s journey to find happiness.
It is all those things, and maybe more. I offer my story to you so that you can find whatever you need in it, hopefully a piece of yourself.
Preliminary readers have said:
“A compellingly personal story that carries the reader through the process of inner healing. It reads like a good novel, but it's so true and real.”
“I don’t know that I've ever read a memoir so honest. Nothing was guarded. That is extremely rare and I found the honesty both fascinating and terrifying.”
“I had no idea there were others out there like me.”
“I just kept going, 'Yes! Yes! Yes!'”
“I was laughing and gasping. ‘This is me! This is me!’”
“damali's life is simultaneously relatable and foreign, which is really hard to find in a memoir, and something that I definitely appreciated.”
“I couldn't put it down! I poured through it in a few days.”